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So... You're Thinking About Homeschooling

With the times as they are, I have been getting so many questions from friends about homeschooling. Things are very uncertain for public schools, and I don't blame parents in the least for looking at all of their options. 
First of all, I have to tell all you parents out there, you are all my heroes. When your kids were sent home for quarantine in March, you went into crisis schooling... that is way different than homeschooling. You had to follow a different curriculum for every teacher your kid(s) had. You had check-ins for every teacher your kid(s) had. You were at the mercy of every teachers' schedule. You sifted through 100's of emails and/or letters that were probably giving you inconsistent information and advice. All while dealing with the uncertainties of your own jobs, finances, and health! 

You did it! You made it through the end of the 2019-20 school year, and you deserve applause for that!

Unfortunately, for the schools around me anyway, life is not going back to normal as we have known it. Most parents are now trying to decided if they want their kids to be in school face to face (mask to mask) a couple days a week, go totally virtual again dealing with all the things mentioned above, or to fully withdraw from the school and commit to homeschooling until we are safe from COVID-19. Remember, homeschooling is never a permanent decision; you can re-enroll back into public school anytime. I found that very comforting when we were deciding whether or not to do it.

I have to tell you that I am NOT a very experienced homeschooling mom. My oldest is just starting 4th grade. So, what I share is mostly appropriate for elementary age kids. 

I only have two kiddos to school without any toddlers or babies in tote. I am blessed that my husband's income is enough for me to work free lance as much or as little as I want. I have it incredibly easy. 

My circumstances are also unique in that my oldest is dyslexic (that's a post for another time) and my youngest would probably be considered gifted and talented. In many "academic" areas they are doing the same level of work. So, I use one curriculum for both and adjust according to their age and abilities. 

So, knowing all of that, I'll share with you some things about getting started with homeschooling, some of the things we do, and some of my favorite resources in a series of posts.

First off, you'll have to find out homeschooling laws for your state; every state is different. 

Here in WI you need to file a PI-1206 form. It's a very simple, online form that you'll need to file every year for every child that you homeschool from ages 6-18. 

In WI a simple record of attendance is required, and you need to provide 875 hours of instruction which sounds completely overwhelming. But I guarantee that when you assess all of the learning that takes place in the daily activities of life, it adds up to WAY more. 

Trip to the store- give them some price comparison math! Trip to the bank- let them count the cash! Working in the garden- science! Baking and cooking- measuring/math skills plus home and life skills! Trip to the apple orchard, zoo, or museum = field trip : ) <----- public schools do field trips all. the. time. When you do projects around the house, make sure your kids are there to help. My hubby is SO good at including the kids in building and repair projects. 

There are plenty of times when I have to check myself, because it would often be so much easier to just do it all myself. Sure, it would go faster. Sure, it would be less messy, but I remind myself that I only have so much time to do this stuff WITH them. In the blink of an eye I will be doing all this stuff myself and I will miss the extra time and messes!

Once you figure out what your state requirements are, you'll want to consider what type of homeschooling you feel would be a good fit for your family. 

Some of the most popular/well known styles of homeschooling are: traditional, classical conversations, Charlotte Mason, Montessori, Waldorf, and Unschooling. There are more as well, and of course, you can always use a combination of styles! I'm not going to cover them all. Just know you'll need to take some time to research them to figure out what you'd like to try. One main reason I love homeschooling is that you can CHANGE your style anytime! 

We do a combination of traditional and unschooling. So, in other words, we use set curriculum for some main subjects, but also allow lots of time for "interest led" learning. I try to have a day every couple weeks that is unplanned and I simply ask my kids what they want to learn about today. Most of the time, the interest led learning happens when questions come up during our time using curriculum. We make room for lots of tangents. 

Moving Beyond the Page is our current choice of curriculum for literature, English, science, and social studies. They also have math and spelling units which we don't use. I LOVE literature based learning which is why I chose this brand. I really like how they break down the concepts and units. I appreciate their scope and sequence. They have plenty of hands on activities that cater to all types of learning styles. I don't do every activity. Honestly, I mostly use this curriculum as a guide. I often find my own activities to do (thank you Pinterest!) and when we find something the kids are really interested in, we welcome tangents and extra activities on that. BUT, on days when I don't have drive or energy to find my own things to do (which happens to every homeschooling parent!), I love that I can default to the provided worksheets and activities. 

If your child is just learning to read, you'll have to get a separate reading curriculum. We used the book Teach Your Child to Read in 100 Easy Lessons along with the Usborne Very First Reading Box Set. I loved the script and the coding of TYCTR. "Easy" is definitely a relative term. It took my dyslexic child a really. long. time. to get through the book. We had a big celebration when she completed it. My second child... didn't even finish it. I think he made it to lesson 78 and he was reading chapter books on his own. 

From the beginning, I knew that my oldest would need something very visual and tactile for learning math. We did a lot of Montessori math activities in her first years of schooling. Then, we started Math-U-See. The number blocks, which are used in plenty of curricula, are an important visual for the kids. There is video instruction for every unit, which is what I need for the subject I feel the least confident about teaching. I love that Math-U-see is very straight forward. Though I understand and appreciate all of the "new" and different ways of teaching math, my dyslexic child (who struggles with remembering sequences) gets very overwhelmed when presented with so many different steps and variations of doing something. She does best with a set, straight forward method and then plenty of repetition to set in the order of steps. 

For spelling and grammer, we use the Orton-Gillingham method which is well known as an effective way to teach dyslexic students. I highly recommend Logic of  English which uses OG techniques. We started the LOE essentials and eventually we will get back to it. But this year, we are going back to the basics of OG. I was failing at teaching spelling, and spelling is my daughter's BIGGEST struggle. This, though, is one of the main reasons we chose homeschooling, the ability to take ample time to address struggles.

Curriculum (or no curriculum) is such an individualized choice. Every kid learns differently. Every parent has different comfort levels of teaching. What works for one family isn't necessarily going to work for another. For instance, take my bestie. We both found success with Teach Your Child to Read in 100 Easy Lessons. She is the person that introduced me to Logic of English, which I think will be good for us in the future, but not right now. I introduced her to Moving Beyond the Page, which she isn't jiving with. She doesn't have the time to find alternate activities and doesn't find the provided activities motivating. So, she is looking for something different. I know a couple of families that do classical conversations and love it, but tuition can be costly for some families. There are benefits and drawbacks to all styles of homeschooling and curriculum.

Curriculum is a trial and error type of commitment. But, you know what? When I taught in a public school, they switched curriculum and methods of teaching several times! When our students were scoring lower on reading standardized tests, the whole district adopted a new way of teaching reading. So, don't feel discouraged if you don't find the perfect curriculum right away. 

If you do choose a curriculum, usually there will be at least a couple of Facebook groups centering on the use of that curriculum. I find those groups to be a treasure trove of ideas for alternate activities, extended learning, and advice. Those groups are usually great for buying and selling used curriculum books too. Curriculum can definitely get expensive! I buy as much used on FB groups and Ebay as I possibly can. 

I want to encourage those of you considering homeschooling during this weird time in our world. I have a feeling that separating from the expectations of multiple teachers will be much less stressful than educating your kids yourself. 

Literally, if you start the day with "what questions do you want to answer today?" Or, "what do you want to learn about today?" you can successfully educate your kids. For example:

Kids: I wanna learn about FOSSILS!
Me: Okay, tell me what you already know about fossils (proceed to discuss or write what they know)
       What questions do you have about fossils? (proceed to say or write down questions)
* Look up information on fossils via the internet to answer those questions. Find printed information and have them read aloud. Also watch some videos. Check out a book or two from the library for them to browse throughout the week (there are lots of digital books available if your library is closed). 
* We like "taking notes" using a web diagram.
* When you find or hear locations in articles, books, or movies, be sure to find them on a map or globe.
Kids: I wanna be a paleontologist!
Me: Cool! What can we do to be like a paleontologist?
Kids: DIG UP BONES!
Me: Lol. Right. We might not find bones, but we can go dig : ) 
* Let them play and dig somewhere and record what they find. If they don't find anything... who cares!?Paleontologists don't find something on every dig.
* This inevitably leads to dinosaurs. We happen to have a ton of dinosaur toys. We could match the toys to our dinosaur species book.We could create an environment for the toys. Discuss the terms, herbivore and carnivore. Name currently living animals that fit into each category.
Me: Let's pretend you are a paleontologist or an archaeologist. Write a journal entry describing today's dig. Draw what you found and describe it.
Other possibilities:
* You could have a discussion of what kind of artifacts or fossils will be found millions of years from now.
* You could make a time line of history
* You could make some type of treat to represent a fossil (like the fossil cookies).
* You could figure out the differences of ages of things. 

TA-DA!
Learning.

Your kids are curious creatures. Curiosity is the basis for learning.


You can do it! I'm not saying it's going to be sunshine and rainbows everyday, but freedom to explore interests, freedom to concentrate on specific gifts and struggles, and freedom from someone else's schedule is worth it. 

What questions or worries do you have about potentially homeschooling? Let me know in the comments.

My Minimal, Mostly Natural Hygiene Routine

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Also, please do your research on essential oils if you are truly interested. Read this post for more.

When I started looking into essential oils for my anxiety, I learned A LOT about the amount of STUFF that is in beauty and hygiene products; so much of that stuff is really awful for us. 

Chemicals, dyes, perfumes... 

When I really took stock of what I was putting on my skin and in my mouth, I was shocked!

So, in the last couple of years, I have been making changes to have a more natural, chemical free life.


But I'm gonna keep it real.

Here is the other side of my bathroom counter:

I fully intend to dye my hair next week after I get a hair cut. Baby steps, right?

Oh... and jelly beans, 'cuz potty training.

Let's talk tooth paste.
I was worried that natural wouldn't cut it. After all, there's no fluoride in it. Well, let me tell you a story. The first time I went to the dentist after I started using natural tooth paste, the hygienist asked me, 

"Are you doing something different since your last visit?"

My first thought was OH CRAP! I totally lied and said no.

Her reply was that I need to keep doing whatever I was doing, because the number of "deep pockets" (whatever the heck those are) had gone from 17 at my last visit to 8.

She didn't even lecture me on flossing, 'cause well... I don't... very often... like once a week... or maybe once every two. Did I just admit that?!

When she told me this, I *suddenly* remembered to tell her that I was using a home made toothpaste. 

Here is what I use for my toothpaste:
1 part coconut oil
1 part baking soda
1/3 part hydrogen peroxide (optional for whitening)
Appropriate ratio of peppermint essential oil

Now, I'm not gonna lie, the first time I used this, I was NOT A FAN. It tasted so salty and bland compared to the minty, Aspartame (yes... ASPARTAME) sweetened toothpaste I was used to, but I was determined to stick with it. After just a few days, I was used to the taste and thoroughly impressed by how clean my mouth felt after every brush. I'll never go back.

Facial Care:
I don't have time or patience for any more facial steps than cleanser and moisturizer. 

I use a simple Neutrogena bar cleanser (not totally natural ingredients though) if I wore make up that day. If I didn't wear any make up, I just use my body cloth from Norwex. 

I moisturize with a mixture of 50% Jojoba oil and 50% Rose Hip oil. I add to that an appropriate 2% ratio combo of Tea Tree essential oil  and either Lavender or Frankincense essential oil. 

Six to 8 drops on my face is all I need for all day moisture. Oh, and don't freak out if your Rose Hip oil is yellow... it absorbs colorlessly ; ) Seriously, the container I have right now will last me a year for sure!

Body Care:
Again, soap and moisturizer only for me and actually, I rarely ever use lotion on my body other than my hands. I need LOTS for my hands especially during winter.

In the shower, I wash up with Dove bar soap for sensitive skin, and exfoliate with my Norwex cloth mentioned above.

My lotion is 50% coconut oil and 50% shea butter and then 2% ratio of your favorite essential oils. I am currently using Spearmint and Eucalyptus. 

This lotion is so thick and creamy. It takes just a tiny amount to do the job, and I really only need to re-apply after I wash my hands.

Hair Care:
I used to use shampoo and conditioner, but not any more. I found this bar soap and I LOVE it. 

I did a whole ton of research on the "no poo" method and all kinds of DIY shampoos. It just seemed that home made shampoos that were actually PH balanced (do your research on that) had to be mixed right before you used it or refrigerated or lasted only a few days. 

This shampoo suds up nicely which isn't always the case with natural shampoos. It also rinses totally clean. 

I use this on my kids too, even my daughter's long hair. There is no need for conditioner, and her hair is no more tangly than it was using the popular store bought kids' shampoos.

A few times, I have used regular shampoos while we've traveled and stayed other places. I notice every time how slimy they leave her hair, like the shampoo never rinses out. It just feels like build up in her hair.

Finally, for control of my pixie cut, which can be affected by major cowlick action, I use this recipe by Robin Konie of ThankYourBody.com. 

Less chemicals. Less time. Cost effective. All of these things are a win for me!

Have you thought about the ingredients in your products before? It's worth a look. Share your experiences in the comments!

That Time When I Said, "No Big Birthday Party This Year"

Last year, I threw a STELLAR birthday party for my kids. They both have May birthdays so, I hosted one big party for adults and kids. I *thought* having adults over would be cool because I like all the people I hang out with, right?

Well, everyone had a blast! People told me for weeks afterward what a great party it was. The thing is... I didn't enjoy it. I was so busy "hosting" that I missed out on any relaxing visitation with said people. 

I know it's not about me. The kids had a terrific time. I loved watching them (for a few stolen moments) have a ball with their friends and family. But, there's just got to be a better way! A way for me to help give happy memories to my kids as well as for me to ENJOY doing so.

Every week, I host a "mom's group" at my house. Six moms, 12 kids. I don't know what I would do without these women in my life! Their kids are my kids' friends and would be the friends we'd invite to a party anyway. Why make another day to schedule? Our family is trying hard to take a stand against being busy. So... mom's group party it is!

It's a morning group so, I made up a simple waffle bar. That morning I set out the toppings, and poured batter (which I made the previous night) and put waffles in the oven to keep warm. Basically, I cooked ONE thing. Amazing.

Throughout the week, I prepped a couple of easy crafts and snacks for the kids to take home. Gwenyth and Reuben helped with all of them so, it wasn't stressful but a fun way to work together.

After eating waffles and dissolving dinosaur eggs, the kids played as normal and the mom's chatted as normal. I felt relaxed and happy... not like I missed out on the good time!


Birthday candles on birthday waffles -- just make sure the waffles are cool! I learned that the hard way last year with birthday pancakes : )



All of these are ideas I found on Pinterest. Words can not describe my love of Pinterest!

I did throw a "family only" party that weekend. Cake and ice cream. That was it. I think everyone actually appreciated the simplicity.

Simple. Sweet. Enjoyable!

Simple can still be super awesome.

What are some things you've simplified because you learned the hard way? Tell me in the comments!








My All Natural, Truly Amazing Deodorant

A lemon.

That is all.

I'm not kidding.

It works.

Even in the hot summer. Once in a great while, I have to reapply, but I reapplied my old chemical containing, aluminum filled antiperspirant so, no difference there.

The difference is, I still sweat. Sweat is okay. Sweating is natural. Blocking our sweat?! Not natural.

I haven't tried it, but a friend of mine uses baking soda to keep dryer. Makes sense.

So, keep a "deodorant only" lemon in a container in your fridge. Cut off the tip. Hold the lemon just like a deodorant stick and apply the open end of the lemon to your pits. Then, cut off a tiny slice (which you discard) and put it back in the fridge for the next day.

Warning: Give this at LEAST a week. I promise you won't smell unbearable, but your body will go through a slight "detox" adjustment period. 

I'll never go back. I love lemons!

What ways do you naturally deodorize? Tell me in the comments. Let's share ideas with each other.

The Minimalist Lifestyle with Kids

I had the minimalist thing down five years ago. I LOVED the state of my house, felt proud of the organization and lack of unneeded stuff.
Then, I got pregnant, and had multiple baby showers...

Suddenly, my lovely perfectly set nursery was overtaken by ALL THE STUFF that comes with babies. I remember sitting in the midst of all the bags and boxes feeling both blessed and overwhelmed!


See! Look how neat and minimal : )


And we all know that you don't get less as the kids get older.

So how do you survive kids with a minimalist mindset?
How do you start teaching kids to be content with less?


I have only been at this parenting thing for about five years, but here are some of the strategies I have tried:

1) Communicate and Model
I try to talk with my kids a lot about being content and having "enough." I go through belongings WITH my kids when contemplating what to keep and what to give away. Asking questions like:
a) When did you last use this?
b) Why do you like it?
c) Do we have something that is very similar?
d) Do you think other kids would enjoy it more often than you?

The thing about this communication is that you it must be lead by the kids. Don't try to convince them to get rid of something because YOU want it gone. It's hard, but if it's ultimately your decision, the kids will react negatively. In the words of a Disney princess, "Let it Go," and by let it go, I mean keep it.
You also have the responsibility to model minimalist behaviors to your kids. I have a visible box in our porch closet specifically for items to donate. If I come across something, I will stop what I am doing (or set aside a time) to ask the kids to put something in it for me. Usually, they ask why I am giving something away, and I can explain that I don't use it, don't need it, have something else like it, or just feel like it's cluttering our home. 

2) Re-Gift
Sometimes, the kids get something as a gift that they already have. It's really tempting to return it or exchange it, but then... you are still getting more stuff. So, I have a re-gift bin. Gosh! I love my re-gift bin. It has bailed me out of many last minute gift runs.

3) Take Photos
My kids, especially my four year old, LOVE to create. I can't even imagine the folders and bins I could fill of their crafts and creations. The camera is the perfect solution. I take photos of their projects and then, into the recycling they go. Some are special enough to be on the fridge for a bit, but after a season, they also come down. Gwenyth loves the camera for recording her creations. Not only do we take photos off all her crafts, but she's realized all of her "set-ups" can last forever with a picture as well!




This is one of her "set ups." She loves to arrange. She is her mother's daughter : )

4) Swap Stuff
Find some like minded friends who would be willing to exchange stuff. Each family gets "new" stuff without buying more stuff. This is especially great for books that you are sick of reading over and over and over and over and over...

5) Use the Library
Speaking of books, the library is the most amazing place! There is so much more to check out than books at most libraries. One of our local libraries has big huge themed bags full of toys, books, and videos to check out. New FREE toys and experiences... that you can't keep! : )

There is no doubt about it, with kids comes stuff. Hopefully, these tips will help keep that stuff from taking over. What are some things you do with your kids to keep the stuff to a minimum? Share your tips in the comments!

A Minimalist Life -- How to Get Started

There is an AMAZING trend surfacing everywhere these days concerning minimalism.

I love it. I hope it sticks.

My journey with a minimalist lifestyle started toward the end of my college career, when I moved five times in three years. I hate moving. So. Much.

In the midst of those moves, I started loathing "stuff." It's a pain to move all the stuff. 

I started questioning why I need all the stuff.


My convictions were solidified when a home organizer (a gift from a dear friend) came into my kitchen for an hour. In that hour, she helped me purge a box of unneeded stuff and consolidated my cupboard space so that I had TWO that were empty! 

From then on, I continually and ruthlessly purge my home of unneeded items.  

I have become very quick at getting rid of things, because I have done it A LOT and have felt the rewards of having less stuff. But, I know this concept is a scary one for some people! It might simply be overwhelming to start at all. 

Do it one room, or even one drawer at a time. 

Take out everything! Put back the things that you absolutely know you will need. Keep the other things in a box(es). Give it a week or so (some advice says up to a year) and take items from the boxes only if the need arises. If after the time frame there are things left in the boxes, those are most likely things you can purge.

If you don't want to store things in boxes for even a short time; you just want to DO IT, the key is being completely honest with yourself. No excuses or lies, the most common being, "I might use it in the future."

There are a few things that I ask myself when debating whether or not to keep something.

1. Do I NEED this object? Do I use it daily or very often? How long has it been since I actually took this item out of it's storage space? 
2.Why EXACTLY do I have it? 
3. Do I have another or similar item to this that I use more? 
4. If I don't NEED it, does it bring me joy?
5. If I don't NEED it, is it sentimental? -- Could I take a picture and be okay with just the photo?
6. If I were to pick up and move to a new house, would this item come with me?

Here is an example: 
I have two bathrobes. One is fluffy terry cloth, one is silky floral. I never use the floral bathrobe. Do I need it? NO. I definitely do not use it daily or even often. I always use my fluffy one.

Here is exactly why I keep it: it was my mother's. I gave it to her as a gift when I was little. It was the first gift that I gave her that I picked out on my own. The first gift where I actually considered my mother's person hood... as in she is beautiful and deserves to have a beautiful robe to wear in the morning after her shower.

I understand it is completely sentimental, and a picture will not suffice for me. So, I keep something I don't need.

One more example:
Necklaces.

I have a collection of other necklaces that I recently went through. I'll just give you my thoughts on one of them.


I ordered this necklace off of Etsy like six years ago as a birthday treat to myself. I definitely do not wear it daily or even often. I honestly can't recall the last time I took it off the hook; in fact, I don't think it's been off the hook since I made the display board it hangs on. 

Why exactly do I still have it? 

UGH! Because I spent money on it, and I thought it was so gorgeous at the time. I still kinda think it's pretty... meh... It could really be cute with the one particular outfit. However, the last time I wore that outfit, I picked a different necklace that I like better. Honestly, it's just not my style anymore. I think I just felt guilty for getting rid of it, because it was hand made.

And so, into my donate box it went.

You see, it's a very thoughtful process (although it doesn't have to be). So, it will take time especially if this is new for you. Think about how much time it took to accumulate all the stuff. It's not going to take five minutes to purge it.

I promise you that living with less stuff is a weight off of your shoulders. It's less space occupied in your home. It's less stuff to take care of which will save you time and effort. Minimalism is very liberating!

I look forward to sharing more with you about a minimalist lifestyle. 

But, let's be real... I still have tons of stuff I don't need. I don't want you to think that I live in a sterile, empty home. I enjoy decorating and display. I enjoy compiling stylish outfits. I love to experiment with arts and crafts. So, believe me, I have stuff! 

I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this definition of minimalism that you can find here on the Minimalists.com:

"Minimalism is a tool to rid yourself of life’s excess in favor of focusing on what’s important—so you can find happiness, fulfillment, and freedom.
Minimalism has helped us…
  • Eliminate our discontent
  • Reclaim our time
  • Live in the moment
  • Pursue our passions
  • Discover our missions
  • Experience real freedom
  • Create more, consume less
  • Focus on our health
  • Grow as individuals
  • Contribute beyond ourselves
  • Rid ourselves of excess stuff
  • Discover purpose in our lives
... Minimalists search for happiness not through things, but through life itself; thus, it’s up to you to determine what is necessary and what is superfluous in your life."

How about you? Do you ever feel like you have too much stuff? What are some ways that you keep it under control?